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[fj]

Crap. Thanks to my fever I forgot to call my family during dinner today, as they were together for a memorial dinner for my mother. I called home and got my eldest sister, turns out it was 1AM, but both she and my father were still awake from having driven back from the restaurant. We talked for an hour or so, a lot of it me trying to explain LA.

6 years since she died. We all have different ways of dealing. I know a lot of them are date-oriented, the day means something special to them. Me, I have to ask ny father each year what date it was, because her death is always a background hum, although it does spike around this week. I like that he respects all the different ways our brains work, that some of us do not organize everything in our brains around dates -- in fact, I barely remember birthdays and anniversaries. Now people know that, you know what, FJ!! 's gonna be a bit late with this. Or early. This was not always the case in my family.

Still bothers me that I forgot, I know they care about it.

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[purejuice.livejournal.com]

xxx

[feste-sylvain.livejournal.com]

I hear tell that there's these hand-held data units which can remind you of such trivia as dates. They can even do it ahead of time!

I wonder if such things could be worked into your phone...

[fj.livejournal.com]

My previous job had me switching devices every 8 months. This is the longest I had this thing.

And today I slept through all alarms with a 100.1 fever.

[feste-sylvain.livejournal.com]

Any family should take that as a legitimate excuse.

[chestertodd.livejournal.com]

i'm coming up on the 7th year of my step-dad (dad's lover of ~30 yrs) dying of cancer. though i was there, i don't tend to remember the day, though if i think about it, i do know when it was. yet - that date is deeply embedded in my father's memory.

i'm not someone who focuses on the date. i'm not great with birthdays, etc. luckily i have 3 anniversaries...

good thoughts out to you. hope we see you both soon.