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[fj]

It started over poffertjes in Amsterdam with him saying we should get married. It ended with me dropping him off at Union Station for the shuttle to LAX, and driving on to IKEA to replace what was shipped to Oakland.

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[tamidon.livejournal.com]

I hate it when people send me hugs in lieu of saying anything helpful,but I don't have anything better to say

[fj.livejournal.com]

It was all civilized and that is good.

[biaggi.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure, but I think you used the word "civilized" before when talking about this. That's good, as you say, but I wonder about that adjective. In any event, hope you're holding on OK.

[bigjohnsf.livejournal.com]

Yeah, me, too.

I don't want to offer platitudes -- especially with someone I barely know. As has been discussed before, what people are trying to say is... "I've been there. I feel your pain." I don't know if I feel fj's pain, but I certainly have felt the pain of a breakup.

But, when I see "civilized" over and over again. I think is civilized not what it should be? I do get the feeling that there's more there.

[fj.livejournal.com]

It's because we have witnessed some awful break-ups as a ouple. Awful. One dear friend is now for us The Queen of Bad Breaker-Uppers, having watched her twice now. It was just nice how this one went, considering it went.

[qwrrty.livejournal.com]

So grateful that it continues to be a civilized process for you. I've wondered if the respectful nature of the breakup might actually make it more difficult to express grief about it, but you've both been so frank about the difficulty and the pain, it doesn't sound like you're having difficulty finding an outlet for that. :-/

[zurcherart.livejournal.com]

Difficult.

[epilady.livejournal.com]

I will hug you in person tomorrow afternoon.

Love.

[vasilatos]

Yeah, love. Also, what is poffertjes?

I have opinions that I will tell you later, and more love.

[epilady.livejournal.com]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Poffertjes

[vasilatos]

Oh cool. Now I really need to learn Dutch. Also make poffertjes. Maybe I could catch me some Dino types.

[dr-memory.livejournal.com]

Wow, that's fascinating: there's a little stand in Chinatown (NYC), run by a tiny old Chinese woman, that makes... pretty much exactly those! Except without the toppings. What a fascinating case of convergent culinary evolution!

[nanne.livejournal.com]

Same principle (batter on hot plate), but very different taste. I've had the Canal street lady's eggcakes a few times, but they never reminded me of poffertjes.

[nanne.livejournal.com]

Poffertjes? God's gift to Dutch children? With lots of powdered sugar and butter? And heaps and heaps and heaps of them?

You need to find a "pofferjesplaat" to make them, though :( Never seen one in the US.

[fj.livejournal.com]

My mom brought me one. With knijpflacons. De hele Koopmans set.

[nanne.livejournal.com]

Good point--esp. since my mom's visiting me in a couple of weeks.

[dr-memory.livejournal.com]

Since I can't be there, add one for me.

[nanne.livejournal.com]

Sounds like it's high time you put those superhero looks (and powers) to some good use!

On the brighter side ...

[allanh.livejournal.com]

This probably isn't helpful now, but will be later: When you decide you're ready to date again, I have the distinct feeling you won't have a problem finding willing potential partners. (And I'm not just talking about sex, 'cause that's easy to find.)

[tofutopher.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Always something to ponder?

Was thinking of you the other day as I was glancing through my BMB profile for the first time in months...

[missdimple.livejournal.com]

I wish I could give you both hugs in person. I know when it all happened to me it seemed like time had flown by so quickly. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you two find peace and happiness.

[curly-chick.livejournal.com]

Many, many hugs. I wish I had something more wise to say.