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[fj]

It started over poffertjes in Amsterdam with him saying we should get married. It ended with me dropping him off at Union Station for the shuttle to LAX, and driving on to IKEA to replace what was shipped to Oakland.

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[fj.livejournal.com]

It was all civilized and that is good.

[biaggi.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure, but I think you used the word "civilized" before when talking about this. That's good, as you say, but I wonder about that adjective. In any event, hope you're holding on OK.

[bigjohnsf.livejournal.com]

Yeah, me, too.

I don't want to offer platitudes -- especially with someone I barely know. As has been discussed before, what people are trying to say is... "I've been there. I feel your pain." I don't know if I feel fj's pain, but I certainly have felt the pain of a breakup.

But, when I see "civilized" over and over again. I think is civilized not what it should be? I do get the feeling that there's more there.

[fj.livejournal.com]

It's because we have witnessed some awful break-ups as a ouple. Awful. One dear friend is now for us The Queen of Bad Breaker-Uppers, having watched her twice now. It was just nice how this one went, considering it went.

[qwrrty.livejournal.com]

So grateful that it continues to be a civilized process for you. I've wondered if the respectful nature of the breakup might actually make it more difficult to express grief about it, but you've both been so frank about the difficulty and the pain, it doesn't sound like you're having difficulty finding an outlet for that. :-/